Let go of the idea that you have to compete and be better than other girls. Crucial. You will never be able to develop your own axis. Narcissism essay. “If you’ve got it, flaunt it! Boss bitch.” Permissive avenues for spiritual pride as an idol, both to soothe emotional wounds from childhood if they were ugly, and to scratch the itch, “I’m better than you! And you! And you! And you too!” To flaunt = feels like a drug. Validation. Dopamine. It is extremely hard not to flaunt because of sinful nature, the human condition. Social media has only worsened this and it will continue to worsen. The need to be better or to compete? Where is the line between allowing? or completely guarding heart from this by detaching constantly, praying. Modesty as the opposite of flaunting and why some Christian women feel the need to argue using the rhetoric that it is mostly men’s responsibility, ignoring this side of women’s own spheres of competitive rivalry, fascinations with fashion trends, the need to belong and be trendy and not be seen as unappealing/frumpy/unattractive. Grace points of course, that this pressure only makes women argue that it is mostly men’s responsibility to gouge their eyes out. But where is the balance? Men guarding their hearts and women guarding theirs. All the same, men want [[Stacy]] because she is a trophy, implicitly telling other men, “Here is proof of my capabilities as a man. I’m a rich, competent, attractive, etc. man who is able to get the best woman. Competition.