"Policing fantasy is nearly impossible," Philadelphia-based psychotherapist [Rebecca Newman, LCSW](https://www.linkedin.com/in/rebeccaannnewman/), tells mbg. In her opinion, "fantasizing about a crush is more in line with viewing pornography than actual infidelity or cheating." In that case, consider your crush a fun diversion—as long as you are content to leave it in the realm of fantasy—not reality." SUCH BULLSHIT. I WILL LITERALLY WRITE AN ENTIRE BLOG BASED ON THIS. California-based clinical psychologist [Carla Marie Manly, Ph.D.](http://www.drcarlamanly.com/), disagrees, considering both fantasizing and flirting "forms of emotional betrayal... Even the most casual flirtations open the door to feelings and actions that could create problems down the road," she cautions. Similarly, [Wyatt Fisher, Psy.D.](https://www.drwyattfisher.com/pages/about-dr-wyatt-fisher), a psychologist, marriage counselor, and couples' retreat leader, views both endeavors as "playing with fire." true true true (2:14 AM but still applicable to this day) “All the difficulties of the present life are but like one rainy day—compared to an everlasting sunshine! How readily, then, should we bear these short-lived troubles! They are but for a moment, just a passing shower—and then the sun will shine out forever! Time is nothing, when compared with eternity. To a believer, this sorrowful life is like one drop of grief, lost in a sea of glory—or one speck of rain, in a year of fair weather. These light and momentary afflictions are not worthy to be compared with the eternal bliss which awaits us!" ~ Charles Spurgeon 1834-1892